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I haven't been on the ol' blog for awhile. Things have been absolutely crazy at work to the point where I'm laying awake at night gain worrying about everything I need to get done. That has made for not just a cranky Jenny, but an exhausted Jenny all in one. Not fun....for me or anyone around me.
Hopefully I'll be able to get over myself this weekend and have a great time with Nadia up for a visit. I've been anxiously awaiting this visit, because Nadia's not just coming up on her own, but she's bringing her boyfriend along with so I can meet him. We've been planning this trip for a few months and I'm so glad that she's given me such a long time to warm up to the idea of this new guy in her life. Maybe I shouldn't call him such a new guy, because in fact he was the old guy that was in her life at about this time last year...that was just before he completely broke her heart though. Now, here they are back together again.
I consider myself to be a pretty easy person to get along with. It's rare that I meet someone that I don't like and I normally have a pretty peaceful relationship with most. There's just this teeny tiny problem that I have been known to have though...I may just be a little to overprotective of my girlfriends when it comes to them having boyfriends.
Take Sara (my childhood best friend) for example. I think she was afraid for her life when I came back from Mexico after spring break of our junior year. She told me had been hanging out with this guy Sam while I was away. Immediately I called everyone I knew that could possibly know Sam and grilled them on what he was about. I was so not happy with everything I heard (although, looking back now, even then he was a good guy) and upon meeting Sam for the first time told him exactly what I thought. Needless to say that didn't go so well and Sam and I had a very strained relationship for at least a year after that. What's so awesome is that people can change. I chose to see Sam for who he used to be, not who he had become. I was extremely judgemental and it was wrong.
I stood up as Sara's maid of honor just a few years after that when she married Sam and couldn't be more happy that she was marrying an amazing man who absolutely adores her. They are perfect for each other and he is such a great guy. (Side note...Sam is currently in England competing in the Para-Cycling Worship Championships, check out how he's doing here or go to his personal website and read his amazing story about being caught in avalanche where he not only lost his good friend, but also became an amputee here.)
Back to Nadia and the boy-toy though. I'm so glad that I've had a few months to warm up to the thought of this guy being with my good friend. At first I was just so afraid that he was going to break her heart (again) that I hated the idea of them as a couple. I so easily forget that people can change and I find that when it relates to someone that I love a lot, I become a monster and find myself being judgemental and assuming of intentions when it's not my place to be. I don't like being judged for mistakes that I've made in the past, but seem to think it's okay that I do it to others. Slowly but surely I am learning. This weekend I am making a choice to get to know Justin as the great guy that Nadia talks about. All I want is for my friend to be happy, and this guy seems to give that to her, so I guess really I should be thanking him, right? Okay, maybe I'm not to that point yet, but I'm working on it! :)
Hopefully I'll be able to get over myself this weekend and have a great time with Nadia up for a visit. I've been anxiously awaiting this visit, because Nadia's not just coming up on her own, but she's bringing her boyfriend along with so I can meet him. We've been planning this trip for a few months and I'm so glad that she's given me such a long time to warm up to the idea of this new guy in her life. Maybe I shouldn't call him such a new guy, because in fact he was the old guy that was in her life at about this time last year...that was just before he completely broke her heart though. Now, here they are back together again.
I consider myself to be a pretty easy person to get along with. It's rare that I meet someone that I don't like and I normally have a pretty peaceful relationship with most. There's just this teeny tiny problem that I have been known to have though...I may just be a little to overprotective of my girlfriends when it comes to them having boyfriends.
Take Sara (my childhood best friend) for example. I think she was afraid for her life when I came back from Mexico after spring break of our junior year. She told me had been hanging out with this guy Sam while I was away. Immediately I called everyone I knew that could possibly know Sam and grilled them on what he was about. I was so not happy with everything I heard (although, looking back now, even then he was a good guy) and upon meeting Sam for the first time told him exactly what I thought. Needless to say that didn't go so well and Sam and I had a very strained relationship for at least a year after that. What's so awesome is that people can change. I chose to see Sam for who he used to be, not who he had become. I was extremely judgemental and it was wrong.
I stood up as Sara's maid of honor just a few years after that when she married Sam and couldn't be more happy that she was marrying an amazing man who absolutely adores her. They are perfect for each other and he is such a great guy. (Side note...Sam is currently in England competing in the Para-Cycling Worship Championships, check out how he's doing here or go to his personal website and read his amazing story about being caught in avalanche where he not only lost his good friend, but also became an amputee here.)
Back to Nadia and the boy-toy though. I'm so glad that I've had a few months to warm up to the thought of this guy being with my good friend. At first I was just so afraid that he was going to break her heart (again) that I hated the idea of them as a couple. I so easily forget that people can change and I find that when it relates to someone that I love a lot, I become a monster and find myself being judgemental and assuming of intentions when it's not my place to be. I don't like being judged for mistakes that I've made in the past, but seem to think it's okay that I do it to others. Slowly but surely I am learning. This weekend I am making a choice to get to know Justin as the great guy that Nadia talks about. All I want is for my friend to be happy, and this guy seems to give that to her, so I guess really I should be thanking him, right? Okay, maybe I'm not to that point yet, but I'm working on it! :)
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